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Counseling: Get Rid Of Addiction, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Addiction is a global issue that needs acknowledgment if we want to save ourselves from the disturbing consequences that comes with it. This problem is increasing with the passage of time and you will be surprised to know that there are various types of addictions that we do not even know about.

The real reason addiction is a major world wide issue is because people start to hide that they are addicted just to stay away from further negative comments and insults. AlertenSafe believes this creates hopelessness in the patient because they are not motivated to quit and live a healthy life. So, we should be aware of the problem, realize how serious it could be, and also need to know that how we can manage or help an addict person in getting rid of it as early as possible.

People have addictions which seem incomprehensible to people who don't
have those addictions. Take gambling as an example; non gamblers just don'
t understand how or why someone would spend every available opportunity
to sit in a casino and willingly dispose of all of their money. From an outside
view it looks like unbelievable stupidity. It seems to be a boring, repetitious
and frustrating hobby at best. On a logical level we wonder why those
people haven't worked out that 'the house always wins'. The gambler loves
to dance around and brag about the times he did win even though we all see
that the final outcome is that he has no home, no money in the bank and a
huge credit debt. Yet, on a small winning streak he can be completely
oblivious to this fact. Without analyzing all the complexities of a gambling
addiction, we can summarize it as this: The gamblers belief in winning the big
one is greater than his belief in the reality of what has happened, what is
happening and what will predictably happen. In short, the dream is more
real than the reality.

The same can be said for drugs, alcohol, food, cigarettes, sex and all
addictions. The reality of an addicts life might be sheer devastation and yet
the belief that one more of whatever will be what the dream expects itself to
be.

It seems to me that a dream can hook into a compartment within the mind
and become completely embedded. It is like a sacred place and it contains
all we want. It could be wealth, happiness, love, security or whatever. We
all have desires and we all have dreams and we all have a place in out minds
in which we live out those possibilities. The gambler might have originally
had a dream of a big win. He probably had a couple of good wins initially
and that reinforced the dream. Somehow though, the gambler became
addicted to the dream. The big win becomes a primary point of reference
and in time all experiences loop back to that point of reference. That is, all
information and every experience gets filtered through the point of reference.
Some refer to this as classic denial. I call it 'The happy place'.

It seems impossible to talk logic or facts to an addict. They filter out what
you say; they might pretend to listen, or they argue with you or blank you
out completely. Their eyes glaze over, their ears shut you out and you can
almost hear them singing lah, lah lah as you speak. They have gone to the
happy place.

This is probably familiar to anyone who has had a relationship with someone
with one of these major addictions. What is less obvious is that most of us
are operating under a very similar pattern - and that is: Obsession.

Obsessions can be hidden or often seem harmless or perhaps a little quirky.
Someone else's obsession may be boring to us, but we don't pay much
attention as we are rarely affected by them to any real degree. Many of us
don't even know that we are obsessed. Yes, we all have our little happy
places and we all filter facts to suit our delusions. But, for many of us, we
are destroying our lives or at least our potential lives.

I remember when a friend of mine became obsessed with her boss. When
she first started talking about him I thought she sounded like a schoolgirl
with a secret crush. Within a short period of time, I wondered if she was
actually stalking the poor guy. (He was happily married and did not flirt or
encourage my friend in any way.) For almost two years she talked about
him as if they were lovers. Almost every conversation we had somehow
looped back to him. She would say things like 'Alan went to Bali last year,
so this year, I am going to Bali and I will stay at the same hotel that he
stayed in. Alan loves blue, so I am going to wear blue every day. I'm
learning to play tennis now, so Alan and I will have more in common. Alan
loves Italian food, so I...' Then there were the magical signs that Alan was
'the one,' 'We both have an older brother and a younger sister. He has a
cousin called Linda and so do I. Alan's name has four letters in it and so
does mine'. Almost everything she said started with, 'Did I mention
Alan...Alan would love this...That reminds me of Alan...Alan has one of
those...' Finally, it came to "I can't make any plans - Alan might call." and
"When Alan and I are married..."

This example might sound a little extreme or even delusional, but really, I
know heaps of women who think and live this way. I couldn't count the
number of women I know, who meet a guy, and by the second date start
talking obsessively and possessively about him. Not in a "I wonder or I
hope someday...' kind of a way either, but in a 'This is real and true...' kind
of way.

Mark is obsessed by horses. He spends hours every weekend searching
antique shops and the Internet to buy anything - that is, everything he can
find that has something to do with horses. He has ornaments, statues,
posters and jewelry stuffed in to three rooms of his home. He doesn't even
know what he owns and much of it has not even been unpacked. In effect,
half of his home is storage - crammed to the ceilings with boxes of stuff filled
with horse paraphernalia. He is not a jockey or an owner, nor is he a
farmer. He has no real relationship with horses at all. But he bores everyone
senseless with his endless conversations about horses.

Religion is another common obsession. I have had to sever friendships over
this one. I have had people break down and weep for my soul and plead
with me to listen. One woman really distressed me when she turned every
news report into a sign of 'the end of the world'. No matter what I said, she
seemed to answer with something along the lines of Satan talking through
me. Almost everything I said or did resulted in a biblical quote of the
Armageddon variety.

Rob was obsessed with money; he was a wealthy entrepreneur but didn't
seem to enjoy life very much. I remember traveling on a train with him and
commenting on the ocean views. He ignored me completely, and I noticed
that he was looking out the opposite window. "That land will be worth a
fortune one day. If I could subdivide..." I also gave him a gift once and he
pulled it apart. I thought that he didn't like it, but it turned out he liked it so
much that he had dismantled it to see how it worked. He wanted to copy
and export them. When we went to restaurants he would compare prices
with other restaurants. Going anywhere with him was like spending a day
with, The Count from Sesame Street!

Julie was obsessed with her looks. Every time we met, she would ask what
I thought of her hair, clothes, shoes or skin. She spent most of her spare
time and money on beauty products, clothes and hair care. When we went
out, she would ask if she was slimmer or younger looking than other women
in the room. She constantly reapplied make up and fiddled with her hair and
clothes. Boring!!!!

Then there are the health conscious and illness obsessions. Sport and work
are often common obsessions. I wonder if all of us might have at least one
thing which we refer to or compare to, in an unconscious, obsessive way.

It's like there is one main point of reference within the mind which we filter
almost all of our thoughts through. What concerns me about obsessions is
that we close off our awareness to infinite possibilities. How do we get to
better ways or different ways, if we keep getting stuck at only one way?
How much of ourselves are we really seeing if we can only define ourselves
as one thing? I also wonder, what this mechanism is that hooks into this one
thing, and why we don't seem to recognize it or question it. When so many
of these obsessions are destructive or at least severely limiting, then why
won't we let go of them.

What's really interesting is that we see it so clearly in others, but probably
have never taken the time to question ourselves. Have a casual look in the
next few days and you might actually find one or more of your own. If it
serves you well then stay with it, but if not, then it might be worth trying to
change it or replace it. Apart from driving your friend's nuts or boring them
to death, you might actually find something a lot more worthwhile to obsess
about.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Psychotherapy

A common misconception is that people are only addicted to alcohol or drugs. But you will be surprised to know that sugar addiction is the most common issue in kids and teenagers. The best solution to this problem is spreading awareness and taking sessions of addiction therapy. We, at AlertenSafe, are here to help you with our expertise in the following ways.

What is addiction therapy ?

Addiction therapy is a type of psychological and medicinal treatment of something that is bothering you too much. It is disturbing you in a way that you do it again and again and after doing that you feel guilty about it. Some people call it even Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) which is addiction to something that you cannot stop thinking about using or doing.

The addiction therapy is done by our specialist therapist who have completed their degrees in this field. Although we all consider ourselves therapists at some point when we are giving your suggestions, that is not the actual therapy that can help someone.

For addictions that are serious like alcohol, sex, pornography, cigarette, etc you need professional help that is provided by the addiction therapists. So, when you feel that you are getting into some kind of addiction, rush to the doctors and discuss your problem. This is the most helpful thing that you can do for yourself because it helps in early diagnosis of the problem, then early consideration in the right way, and ultimately you get rid of it at early stage without the need for medicines and exercising. So, you can say that addiction therapy is helpful for addict individuals who fail to cope up with their problems by themselves.

How it treats different types of addictions in Singapore ?

According to the surveys conducted by our Alertensafe team, one in almost 5 people is suffering from one or another type of addiction. Well, this figure is quite alarming because the ratio is stretching with each passing day. The new type of addictions is introducing that is causing depression and anxiety in society. Given below are some of the addiction types that people face most of the time at present.
1. Drugs and rinks addiction are the topmost right now in the world which is affecting half of the addicts all over the world.
2. Social media and mobile addiction is another sign of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) that is affecting the mental health of people by taking them into anxiety cycles which they cannot get out of easily.
3. The third most important type of addiction is gambling that is taking the youngsters by storm as it distracts them from the right path. They cannot study and focus on anything in their lives and then start taking other types o things that make them addicted to multiple things at the same time.

How addiction therapy can help in treatment?

Well, addiction therapy is the only way that can help in dealing and helping the addicted person for dealing with the problem. It is very simple to deal with addictions if the therapy is done in the right way. Those at the early stage would only need to have sitting sessions, while those at the later stages would need to have medicinal treatment and even exercising on regular basis. So, all you have to do being an addict is that you take care of yourself by reaching out to the therapist who is the only person who could help you out in this situation.

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Psychotherapy

Addiction Withdrawal Symptoms

There are so many withdrawal symptoms of addiction that you can observe immediately when you are getting the addiction therapy. No matter if it is from sex, gambling, or drugs, you will feel similar symptoms almost in every case. So, let us see what are they actually.
1. At the very start, you start to start to feel ache in your head along with dizziness in your body. But slowly it fades away and you get normal in almost a month.
2. You might also start feeling chest tightness in some addiction cases and even to the point of feeling difficulty in breathing. It mostly happens during smoking cessation.
3. Palpitations and uneasy heartbeat may also be felt by many addicts when they are trying to stop taking in food or drinks of which they are addicts.
4. Nausea and stomach ache can also occur in any type of drug addiction therapy because the body is not accepting the change that you are treating it with. So, these symptoms will definitely appear.
5. You might also feel the tension in your muscles and uneasiness in the whole body when you are withdrawing from the addiction at the early stages of treatment.

No matter if a person is a workaholic, drinks too much alcohol, use social media all the time or maybe stick to mobile, are all suffering from addiction. Too much of anything is addiction and when it went to a point when it starts to bother your normal life and mental condition, you should know that you have become an addict. At this point, you would need to seek the help of a therapist that deals with addiction cases. If you do that at early stage, it is the best possible favor you could do for yourself, and to get rid of this problem without going into detailed medicinal treatment and other necessary sitting sessions.

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